I first wrote about penis bonding a few years ago in a hazy state of refraction from a pleasure high much higher than all my pleasures before that.

Penis bonding is more than it seems. A lot look at it dismiss it as boy play, and it does resemble mere mutual jerking which graduates to a bit of cock2cock frot. At first glance it’s a long way from the anal intercourse which rules over gay porn, as if seeking the same primacy of the heterosexual equivalent. Penis bonding is just very different from any of that and doesn’t even film well anyway. It’s also surprisingly difficult, most will never experience it. Only then are all the conditions are present can the unifying pleasure which is not the same as the romantic pleasure of dominance and submission.

The nature and dynamic of the communication between Leo and I was a key factor. For instance, I had to be guided by Leo as only he understood the importance of achieving mutually assured pleasure. He did not hesitate in his pursuit of this goal, and I accepted his guidance. I will disucss this more later when these factors represented critical moments.

It was my first meeting with Leo, we connected through Craigslist maybe a week or two earlier. He is Thai but speaks English with a London twang aquired during a career in London’s banking sector. Just five years older than me, he is semi retired at 40 and yes, he exudes penis power. So, I was very excited to remove our clothes, be naked and experience our penis pleasure with each other.

We started solo and mutual masturbating on the sofa while watching porn

We started out doing side by side mutual masturbation with porn. We soon to got fully horned, into it and ready to increase the intensity. Then, get naked and sit facing each other on a bed, sofa, or even on the floor. Close the gap between you until your dicks are close and you can feel the warmth between your bodies.

Get into it

Apply coconut oil to each other’s dick and start stroking each other. Don’s use water based lube, it will dry and get sticky. As an option, shaved privates will increase the pleasure when combined with the oil. Coconut oil allows for a firm grip that intensifies pleasure without causing pain. If uncut, you will find that you can even rub his sensitive knob, which will further enhance the pleasure you generate. This stage is tricky because you need to find a stroke that works for each of you. On my first experience, he guided us towards a tight grip with deep, slow strokes that included a twist around the head. Encourage, guide and remind your mate to maintain a stroke that works for your penis. Likewise, you’ll find it easy to inadvertently relax your grip on his cock as you begin to goon out on the pleasure from your cock. It’s worth restating this – If one isn’t achieving the same pleasure, they will get bored and you’ll both miss the boat. In this first experience I frequently got distracted as my mind shorted out but my confident mate would direct me to adjust my stroke for him as needed and this is how we kept aligned.

Step it up

Poppers is not a critical addition but boy do I recommend it. If you use it, both use it. Have a good quality bottle nearby and introduce it after a nice period of rolling. For those unfamiliar with it, poppers will focus your minds on lust, to the point of bringing about “a raw, animal-like sexuality”. Take your time, edge it out if necessary, enjoy it fully and for as long as you can both stand it – These feelings are the pleasure you want to ride and any orgasm at the end is simply the sweet cherry on the top of what was already a huge ice cream.

Now, inch yourselves even closer together so that your cocks are directly pressed against each other – it’s a powerful moment. Again, add oil if you want, and continue stroking each other as before. When you stare down between you, the best way I can describe it is penis soup and it’s pretty hot to see, especially with poppers. The intensity of each others stroking and groaning will rise in tandem until you reach a magic moment in which you’ll feel like his dick, which is in your hand, is actually your dick. This is truly incredible and something that only two men can experience. You’ll revel in the union of your manhood, your most intimate and cherished part of your being as men. Again, you can use poppers to help induce this incredible sensation. So, just when you thought it couldn’t get any better, it still does.

Finish goooood

Intensify your penis bonding experience as you head towards the finish line by creating a more intimate stroking technique. By this time, you should both be stroking frantically, less methodically and feeling an intense sense of gratefulness for the other amid groans and masturbation sounds. Now without stopping, switch it up by embracing your dicks together with one hand each. With this change your dicks are sliding directly against each other, maintain the intensity and thrust your hips if you want to – anything to max out the bliss. Your penis, your pride, is being rubbed and stimulated by his and your hands, and the coconut oil, and it all works perfectly.

From here just goon out, find the bate hole and dive into it together. Embrace each other tightly if you like. You may want to kiss. Look at each other and recognise that you have created this amazing experience together and it will become a lasting source of connection between you.

Today we have intermittant contact and hope to reunite in a similar way at some point in the future.

The penis bonding I’m about to share is repeatable, but I have only done it successfully with other guys about three times. So eventhough the actions include mutual masturbation, frottage (frot), and cock2cock; the sum of these do not, on their own, produce this profound brotherly bond. It requires two rare guys with matching communicatuion styles, which is why its best for mates who already share a connection. Only then are all the conditions present to produce this fraternal union or penile oneness… which is not the same as a romantic union like in regular sex.