I started writing this piece four years ago while I was still in a blissful refraction following a depth of pleasure I did not believe possible. I was living in Bangkok then, and this story spurred my first blog – Bangjack which was about my pursuit of pleasure in that amazing city for the benfit of other visitors. After I left Asia, it fell dormant until I was inspired to hammer it into the Locker Room. This is one of the stories that survived the transition.

The experience that Leo and I shared is replicable, but I have only replicated it myself once or twice. That experience is what I call penis bonding. That is, all the conditions necessary in the bringing together of the penis to produce the distinctive characteristic of fraternal union or oneness – that being different to the romantic union we associate with most other sex, including sex between men. Our actions included mutual masturbation, frottage (frot), and cock2cock. However, as I have learned, the sum of these actions do not, on their own, lead to this profound brotherly connection.

The nature and dynamic of the communication between Leo and I is the key added factor that is required. For instance, I was necessarily guided by Leo as only he understood the goal of mutually assured pleasure. He did not hesitate in his pursuit of this goal, and I accepted his active guidance. I will will disucss this more later when I think these factors represented critical junctures.

It was my first meeting with Leo, we connected through Craigslist maybe a week or two earlier. He is Thai but speaks English with a London twang aquired during a career in London’s banking sector. Just five years older than me, he is semi retired at 40 and yes, he exudes penis power. So, I was very excited to remove our clothes, be naked and experience our penis pleasure with each other.

We started solo and mutual masturbating on the sofa while watching porn

We started out doing side by side mutual masturbation with porn. We soon to got fully horned, into it and ready to increase the intensity. Then, get naked and sit facing each other on a bed, sofa, or even on the floor. Close the gap between you until your dicks are close and you can feel the warmth between your bodies.

Get into it

Apply coconut oil to each other’s dick and start stroking each other. Don’s use water based lube, it will dry and get sticky. As an option, shaved privates will increase the pleasure when combined with the oil. Coconut oil allows for a firm grip that intensifies pleasure without causing pain. If uncut, you will find that you can even rub his sensitive knob, which will further enhance the pleasure you generate. This stage is tricky because you need to find a stroke that works for each of you. On my first experience, he guided us towards a tight grip with deep, slow strokes that included a twist around the head. Encourage, guide and remind your mate to maintain a stroke that works for your penis. Likewise, you’ll find it easy to inadvertently relax your grip on his cock as you begin to goon out on the pleasure from your cock. It’s worth restating this – If one isn’t achieving the same pleasure, they will get bored and you’ll both miss the boat. In this first experience I frequently got distracted as my mind shorted out but my confident mate would direct me to adjust my stroke for him as needed and this is how we kept aligned.

Step it up

Poppers is not a critical addition but boy do I recommend it. If you use it, both use it. Have a good quality bottle nearby and introduce it after a nice period of rolling. For those unfamiliar with it, poppers will focus your minds on lust, to the point of bringing about “a raw, animal-like sexuality”. Take your time, edge it out if necessary, enjoy it fully and for as long as you can both stand it – These feelings are the pleasure you want to ride and any orgasm at the end is simply the sweet cherry on the top of what was already a huge ice cream.

Now, inch yourselves even closer together so that your cocks are directly pressed against each other – it’s a powerful moment. Again, add oil if you want, and continue stroking each other as before. When you stare down between you, the best way I can describe it is penis soup and it’s pretty hot to see, especially with poppers. The intensity of each others stroking and groaning will rise in tandem until you reach a magic moment in which you’ll feel like his dick, which is in your hand, is actually your dick. This is truly incredible and something that only two men can experience. You’ll revel in the union of your manhood, your most intimate and cherished part of your being as men. Again, you can use poppers to help induce this incredible sensation. So, just when you thought it couldn’t get any better, it still does.

Finish goooood

Intensify your penis bonding experience as you head towards the finish line by creating a more intimate stroking technique. By this time, you should both be stroking frantically, less methodically and feeling an intense sense of gratefulness for the other amid groans and masturbation sounds. Now without stopping, switch it up by embracing your dicks together with one hand each. With this change your dicks are sliding directly against each other, maintain the intensity and thrust your hips if you want to – anything to max out the bliss. Your penis, your pride, is being rubbed and stimulated by his and your hands, and the coconut oil, and it all works perfectly.

From here just goon out, find the bate hole and dive into it together. Embrace each other tightly if you like. You may want to kiss. Look at each other and recognise that you have created this amazing experience together and it will become a lasting source of connection between you.

Today we have intermittant contact and hope to reunite in a similar way at some point in the future.